Monday, 12 February 2018

Creating a Self Love Mantra (ft. BROWNIES) ♡

Hello lovely people,

Since it's almost Valentine's Day (or more importantly, it's almost Pancake Tuesday..), I thought it would be fun to write a bit about self love. This time of year, it can be hard not to get caught up in the commercial frenzy of teddy bears, chocolates and roses (though I'm totally up for the chocolate part) and end up feeling bereft when unrealistic expectations are left unmet. This can be especially true when we compare our own lives to posts on social media, romantic novels/films and the bombardment of messages from TV ads, magazines and the media.

I want insert a quote here from Rupi Kaur's Milk and Honey that I think is particularly relevant (fyi I want to EAT that book, it's so good)

'Who tricked you into believing that another person was meant to complete you when the most they can do is compliment'

Rereading that quote sends shivers down my spine. Isn't it just brilliant? It is so easy to believe that our lives will not be complete until we find that special someone. To forget that we are whole entire people, a beginning, middle and end, a self preserving, independent thinking bundle of cells. We do not need anybody else to save us, love us or desire us in order to be complete. Love from others is an added bonus but it cannot substitute the love we give ourselves.

This Valentine's Day, I invite you partake in some acts of self-love, whether you are single, in a relationship or otherwise engaged.


Creating your own self love mantra is an fun, nurturing activity which can also be a nice way of practising self care. A self love mantra is a select group of positive affirmations that personally empowers you.

In order to create your mantra pick approx. 4 (or how ever many you like) affirmations that you find comforting and uplifting.

Here's my list of suggestions to get you started:

 ♡ I am powerful                                                                ♡ I deserve love
 ♡ I am strong.                                                                    ♡ I deserve kindness
 ♡ I am perfectly imperfect                                              ♡ I accept myself.
 ♡ I am healing                                                                   ♡ I accept my emotions
 ♡ I am safe                                                                        ♡ I accept my past.
 ♡ I am beautiful                                                                ♡ I forgive myself.
 ♡ I am at peace                                                               ♡ I am grounded.
 ♡ I am magnificent                                                           ♡ I am one with the universe.
 ♡ I am precious                                                                 ♡ I have a voice that deserves to be heard
 ♡ I am sacred                                                  ♡ I am open 
 ♡ I am enough                                                                   ♡ I am loved
 ♡ I am soft
 ♡ I am worthy

Write your mantra down and stick it somewhere you can see it. Write it at the top of every journal entry. Text/Email it to yourself. Repeat it to yourself every morning and evening. Set a positive intention behind the words. Revisit this list and create new mantras for specific events (eg. a job interview or an exam) or chop and change your mantra as required.

It genuinely helps. This is just one way of noticing and softening your inner dialogue and manifesting positive energy. Do you criticise yourself a lot? Blame yourself for things that are out of your control? Hold negative beliefs about your personality or your appearance? Creating a self love mantra can help to challenge destructive thought patterns and create new healthy habits.


Holy Heck these brownies are good. As someone who eats a gluten free diet (because gluten makes me ill not because i'm trying to lose weight), I am used to pretty much all carbohydrates tasting like cardboard so eating brownies that actually tasted like brownies was pretty mouthgasmic.

You've done your self love mantra, you've stepped outside of your comfort zone, now let's bake some chocolately goodness.

What you'll need:

150g of decent chocolate (I like dark, but you can use whatever you want, I won't judge)
100g of gluten free plain flour (I used Dove Farm's mix, you can probably substitute this for standard, gluten-containing flour...I'm sure it'll work) 
3 eggs (go free range, if possible)
100g of butter
200g of sugar
1 tsp of baking powder

How to make them:

  • Preheat the oven to Gas 4/180 °C and stick on your favourite playlist to get you in the brownie baking mood
  • Gently melt the butter and chocolate in a saucepan - try not to burn the mixture, keep stirring it on a low heat and you should be fine 
  • Mix the dry ingredients together
  • Beat the eggs into the dry ingredients
  • Stir in the melted chocolate and butter mixture SLOWLY to avoid creating too many air bubbles
  • Pour the mixture into a well greased tin and bake for 20-25 mins on the middle shelf in the oven
  • While waiting for your brownies to bake, lick the spoon and the bowl clean, dance around the kitchen and try to forget about the impending mountain of washing/tidying up
  • Lastly, let your brownies cool for a while in the tin before cutting into squares (or dinosaurs if you're feeling fancy) and serve. However if you do eat them out of the tin, I ain't gonna judge you.

I hope you have enjoyed this post, let me know if you make the brownies - you can thank me later!

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Until the next time,

Niamh xxx

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